Homophobic grandpa

So child's grandpa is old school. Very homophobic. He won't accept child. Calls child by child's birth name, not child's chosen name.

Two days ago we were over and grandpa asked child why child thinks child is a boy. Then asked child if child has boy parts. I was so proud of my child. Child looked at grandpa and walked away.

Last night on the phone grandpa asked me what bathroom child will use when child starts kindergarten. Telling me child will get beat up if child uses the boys room.

We got our referral as well for the developmental ped. Our family doctor thinks she will be able to help out with this and her anger issues.

Now to just relax. And be calm and carry on.

Kindergarten shots.

So the twins had there kindergarten shots this morning. Our family doctor has not seen child since before the hair cut and the out word vocalization that child is a boy.

Our doctor picked up on it right away. Child told our doctor the male name child likes, and told the doctor that child is a boy.

Doctor is not worried but said it might not be a phase. He told us transgendered kids start expressing it early. To keep an eye on it.

Child is having issues with aggression at school. So we got a referral for child to see the same developmental ped doc that her twin saw for ADHD diagnosses. Our doctor also said child might be just too smart. Her preschool teacher is giving her k-1 level work for some things.

Child also chose boys shorts and tank at H&M today. Had an altercation with my father over child's choice. Telling child that he can't be a boy. Thankfully child did not yell or scream but just walked away.

Tonight I have a book club with my mom friends. Can't wait to de-stress.

Welcome

Welcome to my blog post. This blog is about my child. My child was born a girl. Along with her fraternal twin sister. She was born first. My baby A. The strong child that kicked, punched, and pushed my belly. My child that had a rough start with allergies. Allergic to both dairy and soy and I was unable to breast feed. My child that spent lots of time screaming in pain from reflux till we found the problem.

A little over two years ago. At potty training age she started to wear boys undies. She wanted Spider-Man. So we bought them. Then more boys clothes came. Till my child was wearing full boys clothes.

My child asked for a penis. It crushed me. I joked around about smelly boy penises. That my child would not want one. Teasing my child... My child would ask once a month for a penis. My husband thinking I was pushing my child to be a boy.

Then since September last year my child asked for a haircut. For short hair like daddy. Finally just after Christmas we took my child to a salon to get it cut even though I'm a hairdresser. I did not want my child hating it if it was not liked.  My child loved it.

Just before my child's 5 th birthday, my child asked to be called a boy. My child has for two years asked to be called handsome instead of pretty. My child has smiled when people call my child a boy. And now my child asked to shorten the name to a more boy sounding name.

My child's twin sister has been calling my child a boy for quite some time. My child likes that. My child plays with boys at the park, and gets upset if they find out that my child is biologically a girl as my child feels like a boy.

Kindergarten starts in September and we are stuck with do we put our child in as a girl or a boy?
How do we truly start this transition.